Don’t forget, when you stop doing the wrong things, the
right things eventually catch you.
So make sure you’re not…
1 Making blind judgments. – Don’t always judge a person by
what they show you. What you’ve seen is
oftentimes only what that person has chosen to show you, or what they were
driven to show based on their inner stress and pain. Too often we jump to conclusions, only to
cause ourselves and others unnecessary worry, hurt, and anger. So exercise restraint, be kind, and save the
jumping for joy.
2 Expecting people to be perfect. – When you open up to
love, you must be open up to getting hurt as well. If you expect to love someone, and not have
disappointment every now and then, then you don’t want love, you want something
perfect that doesn’t exist. When you
stop expecting people to be perfect, you can start appreciating them for who
they truly are.
3 Focusing on everything and everyone except YOU. – Make the
world a better place one person at a time, and start with YOU. If you’re looking out into the world to find
where your purpose resides, stop, and look inside instead. Look at who you already are, the lifestyle
you choose to live, and what makes you come alive. Then nurture these things and let them grow
until your current life can no longer contain them. And finally, as you’re being forced to grow,
follow them into the world with courage, trusting that where they will take you
will be where your purpose finds its home.
4 Holding on to the wrong things for too long. – To let go
isn’t to forget. Letting go involves
cherishing the memories, overcoming the obstacles, and moving on. To let go is to be thankful for the
experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and helped you learn and
grow. It’s the acceptance of everything
you have, everything you once had, and the possibilities that lie ahead. It’s all about finding the strength to
embrace life’s changes and continue taking positive steps forward.
5 Denying your mistakes. – Mistakes are almost always
forgivable if you have the courage to admit them. You have to be courageous and wise enough to
know that if what you are doing isn’t producing the desired results, you must
take different actions. Sometimes
falling flat on your face is exactly what’s needed to help you see things from
a totally different perspective, and get back on track.
6 Avoiding your fears. – Go to your fears, sit with them,
and stare at them. Your fears are your
friend; their only job is to show you undeveloped parts of yourself that you
need to cultivate to live a happy life.
The more you do the things you’re most afraid of doing, the more life
opens up. Embrace your fears and your
fears will embrace you.
7 Accepting less than you know you deserve. – Do not
sacrifice your heart or your dignity.
Love yourself enough to never lower your standards for the wrong
reasons. Do not get so anxious for
something that you’ll accept anything. Hold to your standards and be willing to walk
away, with your head held high.
8 Storing mental clutter. – Just as you don’t move from one
home to another without first sorting through what you’ve gathered over the
years, throwing away what is broken and no longer useful, so too should you do
the same with what you’ve mentally gathered, before you move on. Do some sorting, throw away regrets and old
pains, and take only the treasures worth keeping: The lessons, the love, and
the best of what you’ve lived.
9 Worrying about things that can’t be changed. – One of the
happiest moments ever is when you feel the courage to let go of what you can’t
change. Refuse to ruin a perfectly good
today by thinking about a bad yesterday.
The past cannot be changed, forgotten, or erased. However, the lessons learned can prepare you
for a brighter tomorrow.
10 Letting hope gradually slip away. – Every mistake,
breakup, and setback in life is an opportunity to do it better next time. So keep your head held high. We can live without a lot of things, but hope
isn’t one of them. Cultivate hope by
latching onto stories of triumph, and words that inspire. But most of all, listen to the quiet whisper
of your inner strength when it tells you that this is only temporary, and that
you will get through this stronger than you were before.
11 Thinking it’s too late. – Whether you know it or not the
rest of your life is being shaped right now.
You can choose to blame your circumstances on fate or bad luck or bad
choices, or you can fight back. Things
aren’t always going to be fair in the real world; that’s just the way it
is. But for the most part you get what
you give. The rest of your life is being
shaped by the goals you chase, the choices you make, and the actions you
take. The rest of your life is a long
time, and it starts right now.
