Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.
When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you
must think of a reason to start over.
There’s a big difference between giving up and starting over in the
right direction. And there are three
little words that can release you from your past regrets and guide you forward
to a positive new beginning. These words
are: “From now on…”
So, from now on…
1> Let the things you can’t control, GO. – Most things
are only a part of your life because you keep thinking about them. Positive things happen in your life when you
emotionally distance yourself from the negative things. So stop holding on to what hurts, and make
room for what feels right. Do not let
what is out of your control interfere with all the things you can control.
2> Accept and embrace reality. – Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right
moment, neither too soon nor too late.
For everything you lose, you gain something else; and for everything you
gain, you lose something else. You don’t
have to like it, but it’s just easier if you do. So pay attention to your outlook on
life. You can either regret or rejoice;
it’s your choice.
3> Change your mind. – Change is like breath – it isn’t
part of the process, it is the process.
In reality the only thing we can count on is change. And the first step toward positive change is
to change your outlook. Prepare for the
positive. Prepare for the new. Allow the unknown to take you to fresh and
unforeseen areas in yourself. Growth is
impossible without change. If you cannot
change your mind, you cannot change anything in your life. Sometimes all you need to do is look at
things from a different perspective.
4> Hold tight to the good things. – When life’s struggles
knock you into a pit so deep you can’t see anything but darkness, don’t waste
valuable energy trying to dig your way out.
Because if you hastily dig in the dark, you’re likely to head in the
wrong direction and only dig the pit deeper.
Instead, use what energy you have to reach out and pull something good
in with you. For goodness is bright; its
radiance will show you which way is up, and illuminate the correct path that
will take you there.
5> Rest and regroup. – Strength isn’t about bearing a
cross of grief or shame. Strength is
about choosing your path, living with the consequences, and learning from
them. Sometimes you do your best and end
up with a mess. When this happens, don’t
be discouraged. You tried. That’s really all you can ever do. You have not failed; you just learned what
not to do. So rest, regroup, and begin
again with what you now know.
6> Take chances. – Making a big life change or trying
something new can be scary. But do you
know what’s even scarier? Regret. So realize that most of your fears are much
bigger in your mind than they are in reality; you’ll see this for yourself as
soon as you face them. Don’t let them
stop you. Live your life so that you
never have to regret the chances you never took, the love you never let in, and
the gifts you never gave out.
7> Keep climbing. – Every person who is at the top of the
mountain did not fall there from the sky.
Good things come to those who work for them. You gain confidence and grow stronger by
every experience in which you truly push yourself to do something you didn’t
think you could do. If you are standing
in that place of in-between, unable or unwilling to go backwards, but too
afraid to move forward, remember that you can’t enjoy the view without being
willing to climb.
8> Appreciate what you have learned. – Nothing is more
beautiful and powerful than a smile that has struggled through the tears. Don’t regret your time, even the moments that
were filled with hurt. Smile because you
learned from it and gained the strength to rise above it. In the end, it’s not what you have been
through that defines who you are; it’s how you got through it that has made you
the person you are today, and the person you are capable of being tomorrow.
9> Realize every step is necessary. – Nothing is ever
wrong. We learn from every step we
take. Whatever you did today was a
necessary step to get to tomorrow. So be
proud of yourself. Maybe you are not as
good as you want to be, or as great as you one day will be; but thanks to all
the lessons you’ve learned along the way, you are so much better than you used
to be.
