We marry for better or for worse, we expect some ups and
downs, but once we feel we've been betrayed, we are lost.
If we've been lied to so many times we can no longer
think straight, if we've been fooled into thinking we are at fault for an
impossible financial situation because we don't work, don't earn enough, or
because we spend too much, or if we've been manipulated into believing that by
co-signing a loan all our problems would disappear, we've been betrayed. The
person we thought we were supposed to trust and to turn to for emotional
support is not being trustworthy or supportive.
Getting through betrayal is a long process, one that both
parties must be willing to commit to in the most profound way. If one party is
unwilling to be consistently trustworthy and the other is unwilling to forgive,
the cracked foundation only crumbles further.
Today I will understand that trust is a core component of
any successful relationship, and I will know that I deserve a trustworthy
partner.
